#Thrive2016: Thrive5 January

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Feb 20, 2016
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Thrive 5 January #thrive2016

So I said at the beginning of 2016 that this is My Year To Thrive. Which was a pretty big statement for me, considering how far on the back burner I’d put all the things that matter to my own well-being.

I realized early in January that there was simply no way that I could put my Thrive ahead of everything else going on. But I did find that I could make opportunities to thrive and seize opportunities when they presented themselves, too. I thought it would be nice to keep track of some of the highlights for times when I felt like things were slipping into old patterns.

So here are a few ways I managed to live my mission to #Thrive2016 last month.

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I knitted a baby blanket. I’m still waiting for enough wool for the full sized one (as it’s coming from an Etsy store way far away) but this little guy is super cute and makes a great lap blankie.

Then I joined an amazing group of bloggers for a Blogger Mastermind session and had my first Google hangout. I know- everyone els has already done this a million times but it was my first, and second, and third, and fourth. I may not get to hang out with friends often in real life, but I’m very much enjoying spending time with these amazing women online.

Another one of the things I’ve been meaning to do for ages is make food videos. I film all kinds of things but I never seem to get them off my camera. In January, I made my first (and second) food videos and although they are a little bumpy, I’m still pretty proud of these first attempts. I posted the first one here, then the second here. Watch for more videos in the future.

Work-life balance has alluded me for a long time so in January, I managed to cut back about 10 hours a week. This still has me working more than most, but not as many as I have. It’s back to busy right now, but I’m hoping to get them back down once this project is finished.

Valentine’s Day Stained Glass Toddler Craft from The Inspired Home

 

The last thing on my Thrive 5 list for January is I made a craft with the kids which we all thoroughly enjoyed. We’re looking for ways to add more crafts into our weekend routines (especially when the weather is bad).  You can read the post about the craft here, including where I found the idea on The Inspired Home blog.

February is going well too! I’ll tell you all about the #thrive2016 Feb Thrive5 soon.

5 Faves Friday – Winter Style Edition

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Feb 19, 2016
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Winter has finally landed in Toronto so it’s time to grab your favourite winter garb and enjoy the season.

  1. There’s nothing better than a turtleneck sweater for chilly Sunday afternoons. This one, from Eileen Fisher is on my wish list. With the new retail location opening soon, it might be in my closet in no time.
  2. These amazing fleecy hats are made just around the corner from my home and are available in baby, toddler and adults sizes. You can find MiniEm on Etsy.
  3. This Lululemon jacket has been on my wish list since last year. I’ve been saving up my nickels and I’m hoping maybe this is the winter this jacket comes home. I might have to take up running again to justify the purchase, but it would be worth it.
  4. Oh Sorel, my cold Canadian heart (and feet) are pining for these kicks. I love the slip-on style, colour and height. I’m pretty sure I can’t justify ANOTHER pair of Sorel’s, but…
  5. These boots are also cute, but focus on the boot cuffs. I know these are old news, but I still love how boot cuffs look, feel, keep the tops of your calves warm and create the optical illusion that I could fit those this socks in my tall boots and therefore must have very skinny calves. These are another Etsy find. I’m digging the oatmeal colour and the cable knit.

That’s it for another 5 Faves Friday. See you next week.

5 Faves Friday: Can’t buy love but…

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Feb 13, 2016

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Five Faves Friday Valentine Ideas

 

So I know Valentines Day is just a couple of days away, but I thought I’d list off a few things that have been making my heart beat a little faster.

  1. This beautiful white quartz pendant from Mason Birks. Even the photo version makes my heart go pitter patter. It’s simple and stylish, and while it is pricy, it’s not astronomical.
  2. I love Starbucks. I’m not sure if words can even express how much I love to get a hot tea from Starbucks. And as a tea is less than $3, this one can suit any budget.
  3. I often get up at 5:30am to work, blog or just sit quietly before the commotion begins. These slipper socks from Indigo would be perfect for those cool, quiet moments of solitude.
  4. Setting up our new home has been a slow, slow process. After living here for 1.5 years, it’s become clear we could really use a work station on the main floor. We could tuck important papers into it and set up a laptop to work while the kids are playing nearby. A quick search found this desk, also at Indigo. I was afraid to look at the price but it wasn’t totally crazy. And it looks really sharp – ideal as the spot it would sit is front and centre in our day-to-day open concept living space.
  5. If love had no mortgage, car payments, childcare or other budget concerns, I’d love to find one of these wrapped in red tissue instead of a grocery store bouquet and some gummy candies. The new iPad Pro with keyboard and pencil. Drool. Droolie. Drool.

Williams Syndrome Wednesday: See the Hope

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Feb 10, 2016

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We’re about to deliver something very precious to you, and without your support, it won’t make it.

We’re entrusting our sweet little girl to you, but that’s not what I’m talking about. When we drop her off to you, we’re delivering our hope. Take good care of it.

We hope that she will be challenged but not left behind. We hope that she will be included, but also be seen as an individual that needs more. More to learn. More to succeed. More to thrive.

She will need therapists, friends, caregivers, nurturers, protectors, cheerleaders and teachers. There’s a good chance that the teacher will, at times, need to be all of the above. Unless you intervene and insist on extra support. Unless you put hope before budgets, potential before policy and belief in a child before what’s best for the board.

She will need you to hope too. And hope isn’t always easy. Believe me, I know.

What’s easy is reading about a diagnosis and thinking there’s no point in pushing harder. What’s easy is choosing what is practical over what is possible. Or thinking you’re doing the best when you come up against the word ‘no’ once…and giving up. Making people say no over and over makes you unpopular.

It’s hard to be unpopular. I get that. I do. It likely won’t take very long before I am unpopular to you.

Before that happens we need you to take one for the team and ask yourself if maybe you can do better. Wouldn’t it be nice if you and our family and hope could be on the same team?

We could find a way to get little Allie what she needs so she can navigate her way through the school and not get hurt, lost or simply leave.

Or how about a way to harness all the research that’s been done on teaching kids with Williams Syndrome how to read and teaching her that way, instead of how all the other kids learn.

Or maybe a way to let her have the education she has a right to – with all necessary supports – in her community so getting to go to school with her brother won’t compromise her chances for making something of herself.

And maybe every time you get faced with someone who says that’s too much to ask, it’s not how we do things, or she’s not worth the investment, you’ll remember the day we delivered our hope to you. You’ll see the hope. Not all the things that stand in her way. You’ll be the one who makes the difference for her, instead of the one who sees her as someone who doesn’t deserve to be hoped for.

The day is just around the corner. The day we deliver our daughter and all the hope we have for her to you.

Stand out front and welcome her in and see that hope. Then look me in the eye and see all the hope I have for you, too.

 

 

 

 

Mommydo How-To: Maple Bacon Sriracha Popcorn

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Feb 7, 2016

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It’s Superbowl Sunday which means it’s time for some super snacks.

I brought the sweet, spicy and salty together in this easy, yummy, forget-about-your-diet take on popcorn.

It’s surprisingly simple to make. You need bacon, popcorn kernels, maple syrup, Sriracha sauce and a little coarse salt.

Have a look!

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Maple Bacon Sriracha Popcorn

Fry 1/2 lb bacon in a large pot or stovetop save dutch oven.

Remove from fat when crispy, but leave the fat in the pan.

Blot the bacon. Tear into small pieces.

Heat the fat until 1 kernel added to the pot sizzles.

Add 1c popcorn to the pot. Cover and shake over med-high heat until popcorn has slowed down.

Add the bacon pieces to the popped corn.

Mix 3/4c Maple Syrup with 2 tbs Sriracha sauce

Add to the popcorn and back then cover and shake to coat.

(If your corn popped up extra fluffy, you might need extra syrup and spice.)

Pour into bowl and finish with 1-2 tsp coarse salt.

Enjoy!

 

Five Faves Friday: Customer Service

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Jan 30, 2016
5 Faves Friday Customer Service Edition

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I’ve been seeing a post that praises the customer service at US online retailer Zulily on my Facebook page. Their customer service sounds amazing. But I hate for people to think that it’s out of this world. I’ve encountered 5 brands with stand-out customer service over the past 6 months or so, and I’d love to spread some love to all of them.

  1. I wrote this past year about how much I love my Zoku pops maker. Shortly after that, I went to take it from the cupboard and something had happened to it. Something bad. It looked like whatever it has inside the casing that amplifies the freezing had expanded and escaped from the cover. I sent them a tweet with a photo showing them what happened and asking how to dispose of it.  They got back to me very quickly and let me know they’d send me a new one. I told them the warranty had likely passed but they said it was no problem. They took my info and a new one arrived shortly after. Sweet!
  2. Well.ca has customer service policy that is very similar to the one that has made Zulily famous. I sent a note asking if I could exchange a gift that was purchased for one of the kids and was a double. (I had the gift receipt.) The lovely customer service person wrote back and said it was no problem. She asked that I donate the item to charity and they would credit my account with the amount for the toy. JUST DONATE THE ONE I HAVE TO CHARITY! I hope the kids in the play area at Holland Bloorview Hospital enjoy it. Well done, well.ca.
  3. When I was making my Christmas turkey this year, I went to check the temp of the bird and my beloved OXO digital thermometer was no longer up to the task. I actually felt a wave of dread wash over me. I LOVE THAT THING. It’s not easy to find any more and I am a little bit over attached to the thing so I tweeted the OXO company to ask if they had replacement parts, or knew where I could purchase a new one. Again, I was honest that it had been a while since I bought it – no receipt, no warranty. They tweeted me back promptly and told me to call customer service who would take care of me. Indeed, customer service took down the problem, my info and purchase details (which consisted of “I may have bought it at Sears but it was a long time age”) and mailed me a brand spanking new one – no charge. I roasted a chicken to celebrate. Thank you OXO. I really appreciate it.
  4. I have a bit of a stroller problem, but one of the many I’ve accumulated, the Bumbleride Indie gets more use than most. This one transports my daughter back and forth to her special needs preschool each day. The trip involves a car ride, subway travel, a walk and a bus trip on the return leg. This stroller works HARD. Some time ago we realized it was missing a nut. It’s the one that holds the strap to lift it once folded. We let it go, then lost another nut, then the strap itself. I tweeted Bumberide to get details on purchasing a new strap and hardware (and that I should have replaced the first nut and tightened the other ages ago…before the whole strap fell off). The let me know they would send one to me and not to worry. Yes! The stroller is still under warranty, but the never asked. Now we love the stroller even more.
  5. This hop & squeak pogo jumper from Kidoozie WON Christmas. I would never have known about it if it wasn’t for the incredible owners of our neighbourhood toy shop The Swag Sisters. In this day and age it’s rare to have a store that knows just about every family that shops there. It’s even more rare to have them pull something like this out in the madness of the list checking, lego this, beanie boo that, line around the corner rush 3 days before Christmas to say “Shane would love this and it’s only $20” then proceed to give you a full demo (which includes hopping around the store because it has a 250lb weight limit). Three hops in I knew he was totally right. Add it to the counter, place it under the tree then watch as it is used for countless hours over the Christmas break by everyone who came through the door – little kids, big kids and even Nana. No batteries. No tech time. Just people bouncing all over the house – morning, noon and night. Next time you need to win a birthday or Christmas, they can help. You can shop The Swag Sisters online too.

Williams Syndrome Wednesday: Crafting with Exceptional Kids

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Jan 20, 2016

Part of my New Years #thive2016 resolution is ensuring the whole family thrives. So over the weekend I thought we should do a typical family activity. We should make a craft.

Williams Syndrome Wednesday- (1)Not only do both my kids like to make things, Allie gets to work on some of those “therapy skills” when she’s doing crafts at school. Why not do one at home?

I found an easy craft over at The Inspired Home and rounded up all the supplies. This isn’t something we’ve done at home much so I had no idea what to expect. I even tried to google “home craft ideas for kids with intellectual disabilities” but no luck.

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Valentine’s Day Stained Glass Toddler Craft from The Inspired Home

When the time came to prep the craft, my 6 year old son decided he WAS NOT making a heart. Off to a great start. I got everything ready and tried to show Alma how to make her heart but she was much more interested in dumping the bits of tissue paper and peeling up the tape to release the contact paper.

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Williams Syndrome Wednesday: Crafting with Exceptional Kids

There was a time not long ago when I would have packed it all up and yelled “forget it” (not proud of this) but instead I showed Alma again. And again. And again. I handed her individual bits instead of letting her dump the container. We sang a song as we stuck down the bits.

My husband came to give me a hand with the cover contact paper so we could focus Alma and finish that part.

Williams Syndrome Wednesday: Working Together

Working together

My son came over to talk about the craft he DID want to do, so we got that stuff out and he and Alma sat together laughing and bickering and glueing and fighting over the safety scissors. They shared. I helped my boy glue a snowman. I hung Alma’s heart.

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Valentine’s Day Stained Glass Toddler Craft from @theinspiredhome

I also felt a weight lift from my heart. We’re just a regular family doing regular things. Making decorations for Valentines Day. Screwing it up a bit. Feeling proud anyway.

I hope the next person to google “home craft ideas for kids with intellectual disabilities” sees this post and decides to throw caution to the wind and make Valentine’s Hearts from The Inspired Home or some other neat thing that catches their eye on Pinterest. I hope they don’t wait to try something like I did, or search for a special list of special ideas for special kids.

Every craft a kid makes is special.

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Siblings

Moments like these? Special.

Williams Syndrome Wednesday: Fun with Brother

Fun with Brother

Learning that undivided attention, some time to horse around, and seeing our proud faces as we hang up their creations is just what they need? That was pretty special too.

 

If you’re interested in making the Valentines Day Stained Glass Toddler craft, head over to The Inspired Home for all the supplies and instructions.

Valentine Rice Krispie Treats

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Jan 18, 2016

I was lucky enough to win a Rice Krispies prize pack in the #treatsfortoys twitter party in December. I’m a big fan of the program where Rice Krispies donates money for toys for every toy shaped Rice Krispie Treat posted with #treatsfortoys. This year, the campaign raised $40,000.

I thought I’d say Thank You for the amazing prize (which included a whole bunch of Rice Krispies AND a Visa gift card) by making a video of the first thing we made with the delivery. The whole family enjoyed these and I loved making my first food video.

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Heart Shaped Valentine Rice Krispie Treats

We prepared the recipe from the box. You can find it here:

INGREDIENTS

  • 50 ml or 1/4 cup margarine or butter
  • 250 ml or 1 pkg (about 40) regular marshmallows or 5 cups miniature
  • 1.5 L or 6 cups RICE KRISPIES* Vanilla cereal

DIRECTIONS

1.Melt margarine in large saucepan over low heat. Add marshmallows and stir until completely melted. Remove from heat. OR Microwave on high for 45 sec.

2.Stir in KELLOGG’S* RICE KRISPIES* Vanilla Flavour cereal until well coated. Using lightly buttered spatula, press into buttered 3.5 L (13×9″) pan.

3.Allow mixture to cool.

4. Use cookie cutter to cut Rice Krispie treats into heart shapes. You can squish leftover treats into the cookie cutter to shape.

5. Melt candy wafers in the microwave. Time will differ between microwaves. Use 30 sec intervals until soft. Stir to melt the rest of the way.

6. Dip the tops in melted candy coating.

7. Sprinkle with Valentines Day sprinkles before the candy sets.

8. Hide some before everyone eats them on you because you’re going to want to keep some for yourself.

 

2016: My Year to Thrive

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Jan 1, 2016

Just over 3 short years ago, our second child was born. She was born small having suffered in-utero growth restriction and the first of many diagnoses she would receive was “Failure to Thrive”.

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She wasn’t getting enough nutrition and wasn’t growing as she should. It was heartbreaking. From there, she was developmentally delayed, had hypotonia, was socially delayed, tongue tied, had mild pulmonary aortic stenosis, was found to be missing 28 genes on chromosome 7 consistent with a diagnosis of Williams Syndrome. She had high calcium, poor mouth control, vision issues, hearing issues, digestive issues, sleep issues, suspected neuro issues (never confirmed), more feeding issues, ear issues, gross motor delay, sensory issues, repetitive behaviours, speech delay and so on. It’s a lot.

Despite her Williams Syndrome, many of these challenges are resolving, most importantly her cardiac issues, and of course, she no longer has failure to thrive. In fact, she’s a wonderful little girl who steals hearts and sings with gusto.

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It’s me that’s not thriving.

When I entered the NICU three years ago, I clicked into survival mode. I did everything I needed to do. I learned everything. I met with everyone and I faced every challenge with my eye on the prize. To ensure she will reach her full potential. To do this, I had no choice but to put some things on hold. But now…

But now I’m pretty sure “survival mode” isn’t something anyone can survive forever.

So this year I hope to open the door to some of the things that I left behind the day the small one was born.

Don’t worry, I’m realistic. Ensuring Alma reaches her full potential is no less important today than yesterday. And I know that you can’t actually “make time” or “find time”. There are only so many hours in a day. Still, the rest of us need to reach our full potential too.

So here are my personal hopes for 2016:

I want to read a book.

I want to spend time extra time exploring the wonder of the world with my boy.

I want to knit something. Sew something.

I want to go one place I’ve never been. Maybe it’s a corner of the city. Maybe it’s a country. Just somewhere.

I want to eat food that makes me feel well, and strong and that tastes really good. I hope to have seconds, maybe thirds.

I want to experience one of those amazing moments that you couldn’t describe, no matter how hard you try.

I want to do one thing that’s daring, one thing that’s scary and one thing that I probably shouldn’t.

I want to raise a little hell.

I want to get better at something.

I want to laugh till I snort.

I want to feel my body moving and my heart pumping and my mood lifting.

I want to get to know some people better. Sit down, make I contact and talk about them for a change.

I want to breathe. I want to see something that takes my breathe away.

Life is short so this year, I want to do more living.

I want to stop surviving and start thriving.

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Five Tips: Buying gifts for littles with exceptional needs

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Dec 7, 2015
mommydo.com | 5 tips for buying gifts for toddlers with special needs from a Mom of a child with Williams Syndrome

It’s that time of year. Make your list. Check it twice.

Except, when one of the kids on your list has a developmental disability or other special needs, what do you get?

It’s our 3rd Christmas with Allie, and each one has been a bit of a struggle. I don’t really know what she’d like. Certainly no one else knows what she’d like. Shopping for kids with exceptionalities isn’t easy. Every child comes with a unique set of likes and watch outs – many of which the parents have never articulated. The age guides on the box are no help. And tired special needs parents often don’t really know what to tell you.

This year, I set out to make sure that I found Alma something great. I also set out to help guide friends and family shopping for Alma or for other kids that aren’t typical, to gifts the kids will love and the parents will appreciate.

Here are my 5 tips, in no particular order:

1: While no one wants therapy for Christmas, ask if there’s something the child is working on and see if you can find a toy that makes learning or using that skill fun. Alma has just started taking some independent steps, so toys that get her up and moving would be a great motivator. This Skip Hop Explore More Push Owl looks like a fab choice. It seems sturdy, she’d love the owl and it looks like a smooth push so she won’t get discouraged as she’s building this skill.

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2: Ask about “Watch Outs”. As an example, Allie is very “mouthie” so everything goes in. This means she’s really only safe with toys that are listed for children under 3 or have no small parts.

Giving us toys that she’ll grow into just means more to store – and stare at with disappointment that she’s not there yet. The perfect toy is one that she can use now, but can also grow with her – even if toys with small parts are never safe for her.

Alma loves animals. She makes the little sounds…she waves them around. So this toy, the Melissa and Doug Animal Rescue would be a great choice.

Screen Shot 2015-12-07 at 2.46.38 PMShe can play with the little animals and make vroom-vroom sounds with the car now, and eventually use it as a shape sorter.

She would also enjoy this Janod wood hedgehog. Though the numbers are still a little beyond her grasp, she would love the bright colours and having pieces to bang together.

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Other toys in this category would include blocks, a baby doll with no small accessories but outfits to change or other toys that will eventually lead to imaginative play.

3. Find out what the child likes, then figure out how to deliver in a way he or she can enjoy it. Alma’s absolute favourites are pulling things in and out of other things, listening to music and helping with chores. I had to sit down and think pretty hard about that. Not because these things aren’t abundantly clear, but because I always find myself saying “Well she likes X but…” so I inadvertently steer them away from things she’d love instead of towards them. Let the parents know you’ve heard what the child enjoys and you’ll find a way to give them something they’ll love (now) and will safely enjoy. When I allowed myself the same leeway, I found lots of things to add to Allie’s list.

Like this awesome Melissa and Doug Pretty Purse Fill and Spill. She would get hours of entertainment from it. We could take it to appointments to give her something to do and it’s cute to boot.

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Then there’s the Melissa and Doug Let’s Play House kit. Not only does it have things that she can take in and out, but it will also give her realistic tools for when she’s mimicking chores.

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She already has a number of musical toys so I couldn’t find one to add to her list, but she sure would appreciate someone else doing the legwork and finding something new.

4. Try and come up with something that would engage a sibling too. Allie and her brother are 3 years apart, but the gap keeps widening. I love it when she has a toy or an activity that works well for her, but her brother can enjoy too. Once they get going, they have a lot of fun together, but it’s hard to find toys that keep them both busy safely. And let’s face it, speech, gross motor skills, fine motor skills and social skills all develop faster when you’re modelling someone else. And lucky for kids with siblings, they have the best role model right in their own home.

I came across these Tegu Magnetic Wooden Block Sets and was instantly intrigued. These blocks appear to be safe size-wise and would definitely capture both their attentions. Plus, it’s another toy we can take on the go. Bonus!

Screen Shot 2015-12-07 at 2.53.13 PMThis KidKraft Mega Ramp Racing Set would also score high marks with both of them. It looks stable, which is idea for little miss – her balance isn’t great so toys with a larger base give her more confidence to explore. And there’s a racing ramp, which can help satisfy her brother’s competitive nature. Is this a toy I would choose for him? No, he’s likely mostly outgrown it. But if it’s there, and she’s playing with it, I also know he wouldn’t be able to resist joining in the fun.

5. Ask what else they need. This seems like a no-brainer, but I never seem to take stock of all the little things that would make a big difference for me, and benefit Allie in the process.

Like hair clips… because she throws them out of the stroller when we’re walking along. Something like this would be amazing.

Screen Shot 2015-12-07 at 12.20.59 AMShe also needs leggings. Since she’s still mostly knee walking, her tights, leggings and pants sometimes only survive 3 wears before she’s snagged holes in the knees. Love the geometric pattern on these Babylegs.

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Then there’s the lunch bag that I’ve been meaning to get for a month. And if you think this is a ho-hum gift to give, you haven’t seen this soon-to-be-released Skip Hop Zoo Lunchies unicorn.

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She also could use some new cream, and this Matter Company Substance Baby creme is my favourite baby cream but it’s kind of fancy so I rarely splurge.

Screen Shot 2015-12-07 at 2.51.52 PMWhen I sat down to really think about what Alma could use for her own good, but still be safe, that she’d really love and that maybe her brother would love too, I realized there are lots of great gifts out there if I ask the right questions and have a good think. This means there are lots of great gift ideas for any child on your list who’s needs aren’t necessarily met by reading the ages on the box.

And, when you give one, don’t watch the child, watch the parent. Because you, taking the time to ask questions, to understand their exceptional child better and find a gift the kid will love, is the greatest gift you can give them.

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All the gifts featured here are available at well.ca and, with the handy Wishlist feature, I was able to compile an easy way for friends and family to find exactly what I think she’ll like or give them the inspiration they need to find something new.

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