When I first made the decision attend this session to learn and share how I #ThriveinMyLife, I was mentally planning my February #ThriveTop5 post early in March. I had an amazing month (don’t worry, I’ll still get the post up there) with all kinds of great #thrive2016 moments.
I was excited about the interactive session, networking and unconference sessions too.
Then life did one of those things life does. My 6-month plan to change my work situation changed for me and I was suddenly there – six months too soon. I wasn’t surprised per se, but #WhatsNext certainly crossed my mind.
That was almost 4 weeks ago. Since then I’ve been working on creating a side business that has nothing to do with my “day job” business. I’ve done work with some amazing people. And, I have made time for friends, planned nights out and taken the boy on a little road trip. I even had drinks on a Monday night (yes Monday!), gone out for a boozy lunch and cooked up a storm.
These are probably completely obvious to everyone else but I’m going to share them anyway. Just in case someone reading has woken up in the morning and felt a little light inside has gone out and is unsure where to start rekindling the flame.
Sure, epic journeys and grand gestures can really get you jazzed up, but putting your head on the pillow knowing you did something important to you, made someone feel special, or made something that mattered to you (even the absolutely perfect cup of tea that you got to enjoy hot) can make you feel good.
There are days when, from the first moment someone pries my open to tell me that the sun is back to when I put the finishing touches on the next day’s list of things to remember, it’s all about everyone else. And that’s ok, as long as I know there will be other days when I get to fit things that are just for me into the schedule. Not everything is about me and that’s ok because I can make time for some things that are.
For a long I’m said no to everything. How could I possibly put myself further ‘behind’ by taking the time to do “X”. Turns out all that NO-saying put me at the back of the pack. Far further back than a few YESSES along the way would have. So now I say yes. Not all the time. Not to everything. But to enough.
I know, obviously the people who love me want me to thrive, but I was under the mistaken impression that they really wanted me to do what they want all the time. I’m not sure where I got that idea. Turns out, my son likes to come on weird errands and make random stuff and my husband likes to eat what I spend more time than I should making in the kitchen, even if it means the two of us eat late. I had made assumptions about what they wanted and then held myself to them. In doing that I missed out. And so did they.
I always kind of knew this, but lately, I’ve come to embrace this thought. I look for the moments when things are getting a little messy to find ways to add a little #thrive into the situation. Whether the kids are going bananas in the house and it’s time for a little impromptu adventure, or the 6-month plan needs to be turned around overnight, there are all kinds of great things out there. Rather than stewing in the moment or getting all caught up “this is not how I imagined this would go”, I’m trying to live with a “this is going to make a great story, one day” attitude. Like the “I get fired like a boss” story, for instance.
There are still a few tickets left for the Thrive Summit Conference, so Let’s Thrive Together at The Thrive Summit Conference this Monday.
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